Rosebud

5y

why she askin u to buy him a dress, tf?

Its her kid

SCOUSER

5y

What makes u think it contributed to u breaking up

Did she say anything about it after this day

Fka Groovy

5y

Obviously a touchy topic but I just thought back to this scenario. He's 4.

We were at the mall shopping and he saw like a princess dress from his favorite movie frozen. I said I'd get him something.

She took him to the dressing room and they tried it on, I thought nothing of it. A little weird but he's just trying on clothes, I used to do that s*** for laughs too as a kid- they're just kids man.

She comes out "He said he thinks he lookes beautiful 🥺. You should get him this gift."

I said fuuuckkk no, not because it's weird, but because he's like WAY too young to be thinking about this s*** and I won't facilitate it. She got pissed at me and said I was being toxic but like I really don't see it that way. Wouldn't talk to me for a week almost.

I said she can get it if she wants but I'm not gonna put that in his head this early in his life and that I didn't think she should either.

Don't matter anyway cause we broke up a few months later (we're on again off again- boutta be on again 👀👀👀) and I think this is a major contributing factor.

Was I wrong? Did I play my cards right? How do you even approach this kinda s***

Grif

5y

True, I don’t mean to condemn OP. I still think that the correct decision for the child would have been to buy the dress, but it’s not black and white.

Fka Groovy

5y

I think it started cause I was being controlling and she looped it around to being toxically masculine and we drifted apart eventually.

Fka Groovy

5y

Obviously a touchy topic but I just thought back to this scenario. He's 4.

We were at the mall shopping and he saw like a princess dress from his favorite movie frozen. I said I'd get him something.

She took him to the dressing room and they tried it on, I thought nothing of it. A little weird but he's just trying on clothes, I used to do that s*** for laughs too as a kid- they're just kids man.

She comes out "He said he thinks he lookes beautiful 🥺. You should get him this gift."

I said fuuuckkk no, not because it's weird, but because he's like WAY too young to be thinking about this s*** and I won't facilitate it. She got pissed at me and said I was being toxic but like I really don't see it that way. Wouldn't talk to me for a week almost.

I said she can get it if she wants but I'm not gonna put that in his head this early in his life and that I didn't think she should either.

Don't matter anyway cause we broke up a few months later (we're on again off again- boutta be on again 👀👀👀) and I think this is a major contributing factor.

Was I wrong? Did I play my cards right? How do you even approach this kinda s***

bulletbelt

5y

too young to be thinking about what? its just clothes

Y0rn

5y

He just thinks its some cool outfit b. Hes young af

That you make such a big deal of it prob made her think youre against transgenders or so

If i found out my girl homophobic or racist i aint gon talk to her again either

Husherman

5y

Nigga why you playing another nigga saved game?!

CGodJr

5y

You were in the right. Ktt is typically extreme left. But if the mom wants to do that on her own time, good on her. But if you’re not about it, def don’t buy the dreas

user

5y

Until he gets to high school and kills himself because someone lobs a picture of this nigga in a dress on the timeline lol

These next 20 years are gonna be wild

Rosebud

5y

why she askin u to buy him a dress, tf?

Its her kid

Emery Atreides

5y

no one likes people who are controlling.

Emery Atreides

5y

If you’re seriously okay with society socially belittling someone for wearing a dress when they were four then you’re a f***ing lunatic my guy.

user

5y

Lmaoo before we get into the philosophical s*** around why a 4 year old should or shouldn’t wear a dress this is where it should end

It’s just as ridiculous if she was nagging you to buy HER son a pair of Jordans lmao like if that’s what I do cool but b**** u not finna try and guilt me into buying clothes for a developed semen I didn’t create 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Fka Groovy

5y

So if we'd ended up getting married imma just never pay for her kid ever?

S*** was awkward enough the first few years we dated at that point I really didn't care that much.

Niggamortis

5y

If you didn't buy it for him, did she?

Fka Groovy

5y

She ended up buying it. I got him like some s*** with baseball cause he liked baseball.

aglow

5y

When you promise someone you'll buy them something, you dont come up with "conditions" later. So yeah you shouldve bought it