He's not your kid sooo you shouldn't buy it...she should buy it if she wants him to have it sooo badly

Idk man. The kid tries the dress on and says he looks beautiful in it

It sounds like he knows what he’s doing

I think you’re going to have to make a decision if you can accept the kid sooner rather than later

Raising another nigga kid and the kid moving like that?
What a L

Reminds of that Justin Timberlake movie

So it’s okay for the kid to wear and try on the dress but buying is a step too far?

This is why you smash the single moms, and not be in something serious with them

it's just a dress man, but in the end you had no obligation cause it's not your kid.

the more we emphasize limits on meaningless constructed s*** like clothes, the harder it's gonna be for our society to move past our focus on gender roles and expectations

Tbh I don't think OP did anything wrong Its no different than parents who don't want there kids playing with toy guns or eating those fake cigarettes until they are older. You don't want to accidentally influence the way the kid thinks about something.

Refusing to buy a boy a dress because it doesn’t fit with societal standards (after saying you would buy them something they like) is directly influencing the way they think about gender roles.

At the same time OP it isn’t your child so I can understand your hesitance, i honestly don’t know what I would do in that situation. If it was my own child I would buy it though.

Not really. It really only changed the way the kid thinks about OP. When my parents didn't by me a PS2 I didn't suddenly start to hate playstation and everyone who owns one.

Fr lil man probably just wanted to look like his goat Elsa

Buy the dress and cut his balls off

I honestly probably wouldn't have brought the dress either in OP shoes in that instance

But yeah we're in the wrong it's just the way society programmed us to think, don't let anyone on ktt get on their soap box and make you seem like a s***ty person

just learn and move on

I don’t really get your point; if the kids buys the dress, wears it for a while, then gets bored of it, how is that worse than being refused the dress in the first place? I don’t think 4 year olds are really bullying each other if that’s the concern.

Y'all will never make me feel bad about this, stop trying

I grew up without my biological father and my stepdad was 10x the father he was towards me. Nothing wrong with stepping up if you love the mother.

It's obviously really hard for me cause dating the mother puts you in a rough position cause you aren't a parent, but you still have to show that you can be a good partner. A deadbeat ass mom would just let me smash and leave ofc I wouldn't think about buying her kid s***. I don't even buy childless women things if I'm just gonna smash we paying for our own meal PLUS I want gas money if you far.

Yes

He likes frozen so he'd wear the dress any time he got the chance

I'm wasn't gonna encourage him to be feminine or anything

I'm just tryna say OP ain't some a****** for making this decision. He was concerned so he made the decision not to get the dress. If you replace the dress in this scenario with a toy gun I don't think anyone would have a problem with it. The kid would play with the gun for a while, then get board of it and never play with it again but you would still understand the reluctance of a parent to buy the toy gun.

Every decision a parent makes for their kid is based on societal standards. Simply because OP made this one on a topic that is more relevant now than ever does not make him unique. It just happens to be.

People are making the choice to condemn OP for his action based on his beliefs and feelings during this specific situation. Everything a parent does has the chance to influence their child short, medium, or long-term.

The fact that you had to ask should tell you something

Understand what it means to be a father or leave that kid and his mom alone b

Sounds like youre forcing him to repress. What happens when it doesnt stop?

When he gets a job and does that s*** anyway?

If it wont bother you then, then whats the issue now?

If it will bother you then, then are you really a father figure?

OP type to buy the kid a “ladies man” shirt no problem

I get you but I don’t really agree with the equivalence of a toy gun and a dress.

True, I don’t mean to condemn OP. I still think that the correct decision for the child would have been to buy the dress, but it’s not black and white.