At a certain point u accept that many if not most of the things u want in life wont happen and its better to focus on surviving than chasing dreams u might not even benefit from

Life has rarely ever been about getting what u want every time. Its more about being strategic around the things that matter most

I don't think that's true. You can relax, but don't get so complacent no creating or doing hobbies for yourself. Learn a new language, learn a new skill, call your grandma, call your homies and hang with them.

You know what slows down time? Looking for a new job while working one that you hate

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You don’t have unlimited time but rushing isn’t good

Also some people have time some people dont

We actually have plenty of time and rushing your time will lead you into crashing/burning out .

nah knowing people on their 40s, the judgments hit harder when your peers got homes/families/businesses and you still “trying to figure things out” or can’t even afford to socially keep up with them. and regardless, whatever you lack will be sorely noticed by everyone around you (lack of kids, lack of marriage, divorced, still working an hourly job, etc.)

It don’t hit the same as it did at 32 when you pivoted your life, now you 40 and still pivoting??? when 40s is supposed to be setting up 65 if you missed out on it in your 20s/30s cause now you are literally running out of time and eventually energy where if you still figuring it out and you that old now it’s gonna be way harder. this unfortunately ain’t 1900s when inventors and late bloomers had nothing but time in their day and livable wages to “figure things out” later in their lives lol

you not living on crack for most of your life and falling into success like Samuel Jackson did in the 1900s lol. It’s 2026, if you don’t catch time now you gonna be left behind inevitably and it comes quickly

The truth is somewhere in between, leaning more towards your side

Or you can just slow down and re-assess when needed? It's an ebb and flow

You are factually wrong. Inventors and celebrities became famous as up to 65. 1900’s is same as 2026+, no difference

Yall think 40 is old?!!!

Seeing my dad at 65 has changed my entire perspective on age. MF is lifting and climbing rocks.

Never live in a hurry

this just simply is not true. majority of the people you are referring to are still the same people who got famous in the 1900s. once you move into the 2000s, 2010s and 2020s, having s*** generally figured out or a clear plan for the next 5-15 years before you even get to 30 is a commonality cause of the speed technology introduced to our lives and the minimization of all the aspect of life that made making it later in life possible such as, like I said, wages that equate to costs

I can’t just decide to go to college at 36 and land a full time job that can afford me a house by 40 like people were able to do on the 1900s after bullshitting their 20s and 30s d***ged out or whatever they was bullshitting on, come on now. you do that today and people looking at you at 36 as a potential statistic, not with hope you can be better and change your entire life after wasting 36 years of it. nowadays if you still on your bullshit and wasting time by 30 cause you think you got a lot of it, people are generally beginning to not take you seriously as a developing adult or someone they can rely on

40 is old until you hit it. Same as 30. Same old s***

True.

At 35 I have never felt better physically in my life.

Not even 45% into the average American lifespan lmao

Also if you’re not a complete moron it’s not hard to be rich the older you get

Which means more fun travel

This is fair if you live in a country where social mobility is poor. In England you can in fact “decide to go to college at 36 and land a full time job that can afford … a house by 40” we have levies and programmes for this

Agreed and depends what your goals & values are and what you consider success

I’ve travelled to over 35 countries and don’t see myself slowing down soon

@op read Heidegger

You clearly have no experience in society, what you say sounds like a loser take without experience functioning in society

please tell me the 40 year olds who you look up that are still figuring out their lives, I will deadass wait

Be serious my nigga…I live in society and if you 40+ or nearing it and still figuring it out you getting judged, heavy

at now 30 and ive never felt better physically as well lol