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Br00sesIf it's like a complete stranger and we end up talking just based on coincidence that's a bit better for me
Because I know like that's it
That's when I usually end up having better conversations tbh
transient people can be very fun
I have great memories of meeting people on trips where this happens
- Br00ses 🐇·1 replyCrabout
transient people can be very fun
I have great memories of meeting people on trips where this happens
It's the best because it ultimately just doesn't matter
You'll never really have to see them again
As soon as there's the expectation of having like a long lasting relationship it poisons it for me a bit
- ·1 replyBr00ses
It's the best because it ultimately just doesn't matter
You'll never really have to see them again
As soon as there's the expectation of having like a long lasting relationship it poisons it for me a bit
have you thought about taking the pressure off yourself when you talk to somebody you feel like could be a long lasting relationship, so that if it turns transient it wont bother you, to make it less poisonous for yourself?
if that makes any sense
- Br00ses 🐇·1 replyCrabout
have you thought about taking the pressure off yourself when you talk to somebody you feel like could be a long lasting relationship, so that if it turns transient it wont bother you, to make it less poisonous for yourself?
if that makes any sense
But it's not really possible because you know them or they want to know you
And the difference is like clear
Like if it's just a one off convo or if this person that is taking to you is trying to like know you
I just really hate feeling connected to people
- ·1 replyBr00ses
But it's not really possible because you know them or they want to know you
And the difference is like clear
Like if it's just a one off convo or if this person that is taking to you is trying to like know you
I just really hate feeling connected to people
what about feeling connected to people do you dislike?
Stankie 🪑·1 replyTuneout
- Br00ses 🐇·1 replyCrabout
what about feeling connected to people do you dislike?
Well now you're just trying to make the conversation sad !
- ·1 replyBr00ses
Well now you're just trying to make the conversation sad !
im sorry that wasnt my intention its a genuine question, u dont gotta answer it if u dont want to. - Br00ses 🐇·2 repliesCrabout im sorry that wasnt my intention its a genuine question, u dont gotta answer it if u dont want to.
I don't want it to come across as though I'm like sulking for sympathy but it's a hard question to answer honestly without coming across that way
I am not a fan of myself and don't have faith in my ability to contribute to worthwhile connections/relationships with others.
- Br00ses
I don't want it to come across as though I'm like sulking for sympathy but it's a hard question to answer honestly without coming across that way
I am not a fan of myself and don't have faith in my ability to contribute to worthwhile connections/relationships with others.
thats not sulking for sympathy. It’s on topic about a question I asked, youre just being honest.
there are big parts of myself im not a fan of either to put it lightly. I think thats normal and self aware. People who don’t think critically about themselves dont grow.
It’s just a balance of not letting it get in the way of your happiness.
I also think you clearly have ability to contribute worthwhile connections with people, ppl love chatting with you on here a lot so you clearly have that. Maybe your self expectations are too high and you underestimate the value you bring into other peoples lives. which i think most people do
- Stankie 🪑·1 replyBr00ses
I don't want it to come across as though I'm like sulking for sympathy but it's a hard question to answer honestly without coming across that way
I am not a fan of myself and don't have faith in my ability to contribute to worthwhile connections/relationships with others.
You seem like a pretty great conversationalist, at least on here. I went from hating you to you being one of my favorite posters on this entire website. I would say you definitely have the ability, it might just be a question of if you can translate that ability into real life conversations. That will take some work but you already have a good starting position.
- Stankie 🪑
Alright that’s my last serious post of 2026
Who wants some d***
- Stankie
You seem like a pretty great conversationalist, at least on here. I went from hating you to you being one of my favorite posters on this entire website. I would say you definitely have the ability, it might just be a question of if you can translate that ability into real life conversations. That will take some work but you already have a good starting position.
that’s what im saying I look forward to talking to bruises on here its always great. we talk on here all night sometimes
Nort 💫·1 replyCraboutthats reassuring to hear! when ive talked about it people before they really dont know where im coming from.
what have you done to ameliorate it?
Ive done both extremes at different phrases in my life where I try to only get people to talk about themsleves (but in a genuine way about things im also interested in) and then tried to let go of anxiety and be more stream of consciousness.
nowadays im in the middle where i share antidotes about myself if I think the other people will enjoy it and spur on more conversation. im more selective about what I share.
But I also think my ratio of the two is not fine tuned enough compare to other people I meet who are just very self aware and social
I think it’s more comfortable to talk about yourself as an introverted person because it gives you more control over the conversation. So when I’m passing it off to the other person I try to find something genuinely interesting in what they’re saying or find a relating personal anecdote. Feels like an obvious strategy here but I never said it was a unique approach
- ·1 replyNort
I think it’s more comfortable to talk about yourself as an introverted person because it gives you more control over the conversation. So when I’m passing it off to the other person I try to find something genuinely interesting in what they’re saying or find a relating personal anecdote. Feels like an obvious strategy here but I never said it was a unique approach
yeah sometimes what works just works, dont have to reinvent the wheel!
I agree with this approach 100%
·1 replyBr00sesU have been much meaner to everyone than he has ever been....
Who liked this
Spice Stonebut like new ppl? ???
Exactly...........................
·2 repliesFBG LIIIITWho liked this
Definitely me
Purrp 🌚Br00ses@YungPapi I watched this movie called "Nope" last night
Have you ever heard of that?
I haven’t
How was it
- Spice Stone
but like new ppl? ???
Hold mysteries that could be worthwhile
- frenchpress
Definitely me
- Nort 💫·2 repliesCrabout
yeah sometimes what works just works, dont have to reinvent the wheel!
I agree with this approach 100%
ive noticed @RVI is really good about asking people questions in convo to keep it moving and been trying to emulate that recently
- Nort
ive noticed @RVI is really good about asking people questions in convo to keep it moving and been trying to emulate that recently
yes he is
he is a great conversationalist. - ·1 reply
camille and bmass are excellent at it as well.
when they share personal antidotes it always moves the on conversation along really well - ·2 replies
kodak puts himself out there more than he gets credit for too.
