You're right tbh, I'm more upset at myself for giving in. Part of me wishes I brought it up before I even went over there so I could avoid putting myself in that position, I can't blame her at all for expecting us to hook up based on how I left the topic the first time we hung out

@Beach_kneega I don't think she had a crush on me anymore, I was like one of the guys on her list I guess She had a boyfriend but they were in an open relationship, according to her. I miss her company, but I should've known things would be different between us after hooking up

hopefully his post allows some other men on this forum to see why these women might not wanna speak out, or disengage in the moment

he was under no pressure of physical violence, almost no social pressure, very little "power dynamic" to speak of and yet still he felt pressured to say yes even after she basically gave him an out

It took me going to therapy for me to learn, moreso come to terms and accept, that I was being emotionally abused by my ex. I think my biggest problem wasn't opening up about it. But more admitting that it was happening to me by someone who I loved a lot. S*** is rough, but it really gets better the sooner you get outta that situation

If the genders was reversed you wouldn’t say this lmao

At all lol.

Like and im not saying bro gotta feel like a victim ( whatever tf that really means, i know as men we automatically put a negative stigma on that s*** but whatev) but 100% tryna make somebody feel bad/guilt somebody for saying no is textbook coercion.

Doesn't that change the power dynamic inherently

I feel like this tweet of Shaq explaining why men shouldn't open up to women, along with this woman's response to said clip with NO SELF-AWARENESS perfectly encapsulates everything:

i actually was talking to a friend and realized i was fake coerced /forced into s***with someone in college and in hindsight it was actually really weird / felt like i had no choice but also wanted it enough that i dont really hold it against ppl who put me in that position

in highschool this feels even more common

personally i feel like my own problems are my own problems. something abt placing their burden on someone else just doesn't sit right with me

i was talking to my bf about this recently. ill hear about a guys first time and ill be like “no dude, that was assault” and they don’t even realize or wanna accept it until u put it in perspective. it’s men who understand consent when it comes to women they’re with too.

im a 40 year old virgin no cap

Stories like these the chick is slways ugly

My first sexual relationship was when I was young and it was an older woman. It's made me very hyper-sexual and an avid p*** addict for many years. I'm still working on my issues but these are the effects of having s***at an early age

nah she was bad, like body was crazy, it was just gay niggas pushing us into the room for us to f*** so when i look back on it im like

Ngl my sexual experiences are pretty bad. First was being coerced by a girl who didn’t take no and was making me mad uncomfortable with how h**** she was

Think it f***ed me up cause most others were s***workers. Which is never worth it