Men view getting s***as a win
So in a lot of dudes minds, rape isn’t really applicable to men
It’s like you got p**** with no effort, you the man

Because most men are bursting at the seams with repressed emotion and have little to no outlet to express their frustration and trauma in a constructive way, so they follow the crowd and become a misogynist/loser/abuser or all three and find others like them so they can feel good for doing what they do

Sad s***

you think there's a way we can reverse this s***?

Like future generations of men don't gotta grow up with these repressed emotions that we do?

We really need free therapy in this country bruh. :/

Of course bro its one step at a time

We gotta teach our kids to express themselves fully and embrace them. A part of this path is recognizing and coming to terms with our own implicit biases. Its a hard and generational fight but one that can be won with time.

We have to be better if we want our kids to

its scary s*** man. That label stick with you forever no matter how untrue it is.

Some days I think I'm still processing how I feel about certain situations I've been in. Especially when it's with someone you really value as a person

welp. got a great thread today that answers my question lol.

ktt2.com/former-producer-accuses-mary-j-blige-of-statutory-rape-i-was-126370

a whole thread of men justifying an older woman f***ing a younger man.

Idk if it was even rape

Double standards is the answer to most these type convos

really a thread on here where a dude claims to have been raped, then goes on to laugh about it

If you don't get this p**** then you a p****

Or gay

honestly its because patriarchy and patriarchal norms is dehumanizing to everybody.

men are cucked into upholding the boot that keeps them down, but sadly no "meninist" is advocating men's liberation through the destruction of patriarchal social relations.

patriarchy

It’s usually not as traumatizing of an experience for us as it is for women

Even if it’s pressured on us or forced it’s not like we couldn’t stop it if we really wanted to. I had times where I was pressured/coerced and I just swatted the s*** away like an annoying fly. Had other times where I just let it happen cus f*** it. None of the experiences were traumatizing for me cus I wasn’t in any actual danger.

Nothing to really talk about if there’s jo trauma. Just keep it moving

@op are you talking about male-on-male sexual assault or female-on-male sexual assault? bc there is a huge difference

Female-on-male but niggas just dont talk about s*** in general.

Like remember them games rowdy niggas used to do in high school where they went around punching random niggas in the nuts thay was basically assault played off like a joke

Wanted to post this in the Andrew Callaghan thread, but this might be a better place. I made an IG during the pandemic, this girl from high school reached out and we exchanged numbers. She was always into similar music, we smoked weed together etc so I was happy to be back in touch with an old friend. I suspected she had a crush on me in high school, but I never found her attractive

I go over to her place. We just sat on her couch and spoke with some music on. Smoked some weed, had a few drinks. Eventually she brings up that she really did have a crush on me in high school Tells me that she's hooked up with every other guy she crushed on in high school, I'm the last one. I ask her if she invited me over to hook up, she says no. I'm down bad at this point, haven't hooked up with anyone in over a year. So I tell her I would be down to do that (even though I'm still not attracted to her) but I make it clear that s***is off the table, oral is as far as I'm willing to go. She says she's on her period but she'll keep that in mind. We continue hanging out, I go home, wake up the next morning and I feel grateful nothing happened because I felt like I would have regretted it

So we hang out again a few weeks later but before I go over there, I tell myself that I won't hook up with her Even wore some torn up boxers to deter myself. At her place, she brings up our conversation last time about hooking up. I tell her I felt glad that we didn't, maybe it's best if we don't, it will f*** up this friendship we have. I expect her to be cool with my boundaries, but she let's me know how disappointed she is Like I led her on, I got her hopes up, I'm the one who brought it up etc. She says she's going to the bathroom so I can think about what I want to do. I feel like if I tell her no, I wouldn't be welcome anymore, I'd have to leave immediately and we'd probably never speak again

So I agree to hook up. We make out, do some grinding. I stop after like 30 minutes because I can't really get into it with someone I'm not attracted to. We have a few more minutes of awkward conversation and I leave. We haven't spoken since that night

Idk how to feel about it because I kinda feel like she coerced me by not respecting when I said no and saying how disappointed she felt about me switching up. But she also gave me an opportunity to leave and I didn't because I felt like it would ruin our friendship (which happened anyway because we hooked up). I still don't feel good myself for this situation, wish I just left

Nothing to really talk about if there’s jo trauma. Just keep it moving

I was gonna write a long post discussing my own experiences being taken advantage of but this sums it up perfectly tbh, especially the last sentence

female-on-male sexual assault/coercion is a real thing that should be talked about more. but honestly… if a guy has no mental baggage or trauma from it and looks back on it fondly, then there’s really no point. why convince somebody that they’re a victim when they don’t feel like one and have moved on from the experience?

no offense bro, but this doesn’t sound like sexual coercion. more like you just had a sexual encounter that you regretted. like you said, she gave you two opportunities to leave

Theres alot of fellas who will take whatever they can get. And so when the subject comes up, that's how they treat it and try make everyone feel that should be the way for a man.

It’s a different experience when you get pressured into having s***with a girl but when you leave the room and go back to your friends they all praise u

Sounds like she observed consent. Y'all growing apart was for the best because that power dynamic will always be warped as long as she is actively crushing on you and you don't feel the same way.