Rn I have 0 friends unfortunately. Used to be pretty popular in high school and college but eventually fell out with everyone, went thru a tough years long period of isolation and anxiety.
Like my anxiety was so bad to the point I couldn’t even leave my house for months. But now I have no anxiety and I’m the most confident I’ve ever been but I can’t seem to crack the friend or social life thing. It’s like on some level, everyone really annoys me and other times I don’t see the point of it when I could just be making more money. But sometimes I do get lonely. I haven’t had a night out since maybe 2018/2019

It could be hereditary, no one in my immediate family has a social life either but they all seem fine. The closest is my mom who literally has connects to everyone in the city but she was crying last year about how she doesn’t see her friends unless for business. It made me lose a lil respect for her cuz it’s like f*** em get to the money. Like ik loneliness can hurt but no reason to cry about it

why do you hate people, brother?

I’m not sure really. I have a love for humanity, I enjoy helping ppl and wanna volunteer more in the community. But on a personal level it’s just a no for me.

Sounds like u hate urself

You need therapy

I’m in weekly therapy and DBT as well

i ain't got a group right now (been trying with these different neurodivergent groups, but they got undercover narcs in every corner). when you meet that one good person it will be worth it man trust me!

you might possibly make connections with the volunteer gig

I think I’m the goat honestly

What bothers you on a Personal level

Hating people stems from some form of narcissism which is a form of self hatred

last thread u said u had one friend and dont want more
u good g?

Idk ppl have always just not liked me on a personal level since I was born. When I had friends it was cuz I was funny and that was it. I’ve grown to learn there’s nothing I can do to make ppl like me and I have to be self reliant and love myself. I spent a long time not loving myself. For example, when I was with my ex, her and her friend talked s*** about me behind my back for being passionate about music calling me a snob only for her to date someone else that’s even more passionate and she loves that passion from him. I mean I could care less why but it’s one of a million examples of me being just like everyone else but for some reason me being like everyone else isn’t good enough.

I do, but it might as well be zero cuz we see each other maybe once a year and he’s so depressed I rarely hear from him anymore

Go to an event that is themed after a hobby you like

Build rapport with someone there

boom you made a friend

Bruh the s*** I like usually has the ppl that dislike me the most and honestly I dislike them as well. I grew up a anime nerd. Being around anime nerds is cringe

Like a lot of my friend group were hood niggas etc but I never felt right with them cuz we had different values

You’re mentally in 2011 bro lmao a lot of anime fans are just regular people

Then pick another hobby

and keep going until you find something that is tolerable

If youre into sports go to a sports bar, its almost impossible not to make a friend in that environment, its hollow friendship, but friendship nonetheless

That is true but if u going to a anime event ur not a regular person

Lmk when u figure this out @op

you’re not gonna make friends w such an awful attitude will bring everyone down they won’t wanna be around you

Come on man

Aight, sports then

Also, how do you carry yourself around folks? How do you address them

Your mother is crying because she knows and accepts what you already know, and will eventually accept: money covers most needs but not all

I’m usually polite, ask ppl how they are doing make small talk etc at my job I talk to ppl all day and ppl like me at my job