im almost there

3y

FASFA never f***ed with me, that's why I had to drop out my freshman year honestly

im almost there

3y

bingo, which deepens my lack of hope to be honest because i experienced it first hand after requesting assistance for years

Squilliam

3y

Why do you feel you need someone to help you?

Bruv go on LinkedIn and start applying to contract positions

im almost there

3y

the guy who i replied to deleted his posts

i dont know why

but he said something like the psychiatrist that prescribed me the Lexapro was probably trying to deep me in a certain mood

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3y

this accounts trolls a lot but ill take this post with a grain of salt

thanks

im almost there

3y

https://www.aspietests.org/userdetails.php?target=raads/index.php

i took one of these tests and it said i’m above the threshold for neurotypicals

Squilliam

3y

Sending love to you my bro but trust in yourself, you got this. You got a lot of good advice in here pick 2-3 things and head in that direction

rvi

3y

if you really are then you should adjust your mindset to take advantage of the benefits while keeping in mind the drawbacks instead of just viewing it as one big negative

ex: things like tapping into your ability to focus and excel using habits more than neurotypical people

different for everyone though ofc. being a high functioning autistic person really isnt a negative thing like people think, it's just different and you have to learn about your differences and not let the negatives control you

im almost there

3y

im aware of that, my issue is knowing that my strengths are also my weaknesses

like my hyper fixation on attention to detail or jumping from thought to thought

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i wish there was but the only thing out here like that is Allied Security and a few temp agencies, but again they mostly send you to Allied Security and everyone that works there is a low life, not even exaggerating

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3y

ive been isolated for months

im unemployed and the job market in new york is horrible right now

nobody wants to hang out unless i have money to do things with them

im f***ing 25 feeling like this

i i think i have undiagnosed autism

i hate it

im almost there

3y

ive been isolated for months

im unemployed and the job market in new york is horrible right now

nobody wants to hang out unless i have money to do things with them

im f***ing 25 feeling like this

i i think i have undiagnosed autism

i hate it

im almost there

3y

actually i would appreciate that, thanks man

whats your email

babylon sherm

3y

You’re only 25 OP, I highly suggest you pick up some shifts tending bar or waiting tables while you still have youth to cling to. It gets you out of the house, talking to people and the city is never gonna run out of bars/restaurants/venues. You’re leaving work with money in your pocket every night. Free meals too

Plus if you work at a place that hosts bands, you’ve got a free concert every night. Distract yourself with concerts, very vital to one’s mental health IMO

Park Slope Center for Mental Health provides free psychotherapy (at least, it used to - haven’t been in several years) and may be able to provide an assessment/informed opinion about what you’re feeling

As a 30 y/o autist in the city who still feels like this sometimes despite a job,I’m the Jacob Marley of this thread and I’ve come back to tell you that better living is possible if you start today but ONLY if you start today The changes can’t wait! Don’t let it fester any longer

NY posters are good people btw, very friendly folks. Go to a KTT artists show and you’re bound to meet someone you share interests with

im almost there

3y

ive been isolated for months

im unemployed and the job market in new york is horrible right now

nobody wants to hang out unless i have money to do things with them

im f***ing 25 feeling like this

i i think i have undiagnosed autism

i hate it

Pusha P

3y

at 25 (2020) I was also unemployed (for like the umpteenth time), COVID money all went to a new car, so I was broke, then by 26 I was fired from the job I had returned to. Whole family had pretty much lost hope for me by this point lmao (I was the very definition of a NEET).

But in that moment I had a mental awakening. I actually went straight to a temp agency that same day and set my self up with a factory job (despite hating the idea of working in a factory) starting the following Monday. I will admit, I told them specifically I've heard about the horrors of factory work, I don't want some hard, boring, back breaking s***, and they were like "We got you " and put me in a pretty chill assembly position. (I actually got to mess with a cutie with a booty there but she was crazy )

Shortly after, I decided I was gonna go back to school for the 4TH TIME that Fall, studying IT.

The strangest thing is that the factory job that I was dreading so much actually became one of my most memorable and fun jobs I've ever had. So much so that the Manager of Production was tearing up when I put in my two week notice to start a new IT job with a (swindling ass) managed service provider.

Fast forward to last December, I get myself fired from there (lol, it was a tactical move, trust me, got unemployment, plus the boss was a horrible scam artist that wasn't letting me learn anything)

Now, I'm working in the chillest job I've had YET as an IT Support Specialist at a small company. And trust me, I'm not letting this one go. The amount of knowledge and experience I've learned from this job has certified me as an IT professional, I don't just have my 'foot in the door', I've got my whole body through it, and I'm standing at the entrance. And in a few weeks, they'll be paying for me to study and attain AWS certifications.
And after that, they're talking about expanding my responsibilities and giving me a manager position.

By no means have "I made it" yet (between you and me, I'm probably like 1 or 2 good f*** ups from being right back at square one), but seeing the 'fruits' of my labor start to sprout right before my eyes (something I didn't even believe in at first) has made me determined to keep it pushing no matter what.

I heard this classic Nipsey quote not too long ago and thought it was something that many of us could relate to:

"That's why I called my thing The Marathon
Because I, I'm not gon' lie and portray
Um, this ultimate poise, like I been had it figured out

Nah, I just didn't quit
That's the only distinguishing quality

From me and probably whoever else is goin' through this
Or went through this, or is gonna go through this
Is that I ain't quit

I went through every emotion

I went through every emotion with tryna pursue what I'm doing
You know what I mean?

And I think that what, what's gon' separate
Whoever's gon' try to go for something

Is that you ain't gon' quit"

That's not a fairy tale, that's real. And it applies to any kind of adversity you can think of. Find your skill that you enjoy, find out how it makes money (whether from entrepreneurship or if it's a specialized blue collar field), study it, and run with it, no matter what. Even if they tell you that you suck ass, even if you're not the best student in the class, don't ever quit.

And guess what, employers respect the F*** out of people that are looking for a full time gig while taking classes, yes that means probably online or night classes, but those classes are easier anyway.