Nov 10, 2022·2 replies
crippin jimmyit's not cold/unforgiving to not be cool with their partner being hit man, especially if we have first hand experience in this s***
OPs girl is not ur ex.
Nov 10, 2022cold mountainit's honestly shocking to me how many posters itt are like "yeah that's it, give up on it all, leave her." Maybe if this was part of a pattern, I'd agree. But it's not.
Yes, this is bad, but finding love is all abt working thru the bad spots. Forgiveness, acceptance, and understanding are HUGE virtues, ones that I think a LOT of ppl itt lack
you’re such a dumbass man
Nov 10, 2022i'd have to REALLY love the woman for me to stay with her after hitting me
- Nov 10, 2022
i just don't personally think i ever would talk to someone capable of that though. they woulda been left long before it got to that point
- Nov 10, 2022cold mountain
OPs girl is not ur ex.
Why you showing more empathy to an abuser than someone who was abused first hand and is trying to help OP? (me/OP)
being v dismissive and wonder why people wont listen to your s***ty advice
Nov 10, 2022·1 replycold mountaintf? cus she feel bad?
bro people make impulse decisions and do stupid s*** they instantly regret all the damn time.
It's wild to me that it's like physically impossible for u to even consider that maybe she doesn't think hitting her partner is cool.
People impulsively murder and assault people all the time-- that doesn't mean there shouldn't be consequences and all is forgiven.
Even in the court of law, actions based on impulse are still actions of liability.
Forgive her if you want but it's domestic violence. It's up to OP to decide but he imo should not be with this person if she can't control her emotions to the point of punching your loved one over a simple argument lol
- Nov 10, 2022crippin jimmy
it's not cold/unforgiving to not be cool with their partner being hit man, especially if we have first hand experience in this s***
this, unfortunately I've had a toxic relationship where we would fight all the time and she had this type of behavior
when I'm saying this don't get better, I'm speaking from my perspective
Nov 10, 2022
rather late· editedChildhood trauma is really f***ed up but as a grown adult you have to responsibility to work on that if you dont want to pass that trauma onto others
- Nov 10, 2022
Leave her.
Her Loss.
- Nov 10, 2022·edited·2 repliesASAKI
People impulsively murder and assault people all the time-- that doesn't mean there shouldn't be consequences and all is forgiven.
Even in the court of law, actions based on impulse are still actions of liability.
Forgive her if you want but it's domestic violence. It's up to OP to decide but he imo should not be with this person if she can't control her emotions to the point of punching your loved one over a simple argument lol
yes, but in a court of law it still does matter whether or not it was impulse. Sometimes, the punishment can be really different depending on whether it was premeditated or on impulse.
some ppl itt are acting like this was calculated, like it's something she stands by and thinks is okay. Seems pretty obvious that this isn't the case.
Nov 10, 2022punching/getting punched is crazy OP
Nov 10, 2022·1 replycold mountainyes, but in a court of law it still does matter whether or not it was impulse. Sometimes, the punishment can be really different depending on whether it was premeditated or on impulse.
some ppl itt are acting like this was calculated, like it's something she stands by and thinks is okay. Seems pretty obvious that this isn't the case.
This still physical abuse tho. Worst case scenario, she gone be testing what she can get away with each time
- Nov 10, 2022·2 repliescold mountain
yes, but in a court of law it still does matter whether or not it was impulse. Sometimes, the punishment can be really different depending on whether it was premeditated or on impulse.
some ppl itt are acting like this was calculated, like it's something she stands by and thinks is okay. Seems pretty obvious that this isn't the case.
Ok but there's still consequences. At minimum OP's gotta force her ass into counseling and have her be looked at a psychologist for any mental disorders, if she really does have childhood trauma.
Again, depends on OP's boundaries. If it was me, I would've kicked her ass out expeditiously and never talked to her again. This is still domestic violence, and domestic violence almost always has a pattern of repetition.
Nov 10, 2022
RASIE· editedSo you're in an abusive relationship with someone who will undoubtedly continue to do this to you.
Leave right now. Break it off and live a better life.
Nov 10, 2022·1 replyGetting hit by your woman unprovoked is crazy. I understand if you like grabbed her or something or kept touching her. But she blew your s*** out bro. It's not gonna work longterm and it's gonna turn miserable. People who use past trauma to justify their actions are dirt, and are capable of cruel s***. I understand you wanting to stay with her bro but it's not gonna work longterm so I hope you try to find an upgrade while you with her. Otherwise your a sucker.
- Nov 10, 2022·1 replyCRACKASTEPPAVEGAN
This still physical abuse tho. Worst case scenario, she gone be testing what she can get away with each time
yes, but best case scenario she's genuinely deeply sorry, works on her response to being yelled at, and this kinda thing never happens again.
If she doesn't work to change that behavior, then yeah sure, dump her. But at least give her a chance, I'm saying.
Maybe OP and his girl really are great for each other outside of this one incident, and maybe they're totally capable of working it all out. If that's the case, then he'd be throwing it all away for some twitterbrained "principle".
"sorry babe, I know you're sorry, I know you're willing to change, and I wanna work thru this with you but twitter/ktt says I'm not allowed too"
of course, maybe she's genuinely terrible for OP. That's also possible. But we do not have enough info to make that judgement. That's all up to OP
Nov 10, 2022·1 replyIceTrainGetting hit by your woman unprovoked is crazy. I understand if you like grabbed her or something or kept touching her. But she blew your s*** out bro. It's not gonna work longterm and it's gonna turn miserable. People who use past trauma to justify their actions are dirt, and are capable of cruel s***. I understand you wanting to stay with her bro but it's not gonna work longterm so I hope you try to find an upgrade while you with her. Otherwise your a sucker.
I mean it wasn't unprovoked, OP said he was yelling and cursing at her. Doesn't mean she's justified in punching him at all, but it's disingenuous to say it was unprovoked.
- Nov 10, 2022·1 replyASAKI
Ok but there's still consequences. At minimum OP's gotta force her ass into counseling and have her be looked at a psychologist for any mental disorders, if she really does have childhood trauma.
Again, depends on OP's boundaries. If it was me, I would've kicked her ass out expeditiously and never talked to her again. This is still domestic violence, and domestic violence almost always has a pattern of repetition.
no, OP does not have to put her into counseling or take her to a psychologist.
Maybe that would be helpful, but the only thing that has to happen is that OPs girl never hits him like that again.
Nov 10, 2022Good to see you back, hate it had to be on these terms.
Idk bro I wouldn’t tolerate abuse of any form. You dead s*** like that on sight. You can’t engage in a relationship with someone who would lay hands on you.
- Nov 10, 2022·2 repliesSmacked Voodoo
I mean it wasn't unprovoked, OP said he was yelling and cursing at her. Doesn't mean she's justified in punching him at all, but it's disingenuous to say it was unprovoked.
Even more reason to break it off then. Yelling at the top of your lungs frequently already and s*** getting physical and I bet they haven't even been together for that long. When s*** like this happens at the outset of the relationship its better to just cut your losses tbh cause it never gets better in my personal experience.
If OP is a man with options this shouldn't even be debatable.
- Nov 10, 2022IceTrain
Even more reason to break it off then. Yelling at the top of your lungs frequently already and s*** getting physical and I bet they haven't even been together for that long. When s*** like this happens at the outset of the relationship its better to just cut your losses tbh cause it never gets better in my personal experience.
If OP is a man with options this shouldn't even be debatable.
Definitely agree
Nov 10, 2022·1 replycold mountainyes, but best case scenario she's genuinely deeply sorry, works on her response to being yelled at, and this kinda thing never happens again.
If she doesn't work to change that behavior, then yeah sure, dump her. But at least give her a chance, I'm saying.
Maybe OP and his girl really are great for each other outside of this one incident, and maybe they're totally capable of working it all out. If that's the case, then he'd be throwing it all away for some twitterbrained "principle".
"sorry babe, I know you're sorry, I know you're willing to change, and I wanna work thru this with you but twitter/ktt says I'm not allowed too"
of course, maybe she's genuinely terrible for OP. That's also possible. But we do not have enough info to make that judgement. That's all up to OP
You’re using Twitter/ktt advice to discredit actual solid advice.
I would never advise someone to return to abuse, regardless of how many times it has happened. Yes, she may have the capability to change, but she should never have felt the right to put her hands on someone she loves. Only way she can learn that she was wrong is if OP removes himself from the situation entirely so she knows just how much pain she caused (man cried).
She physically assaulted homie during a non-physical confrontation and caused him to have emotional pain. He should steer clear until she seeks therapy for her past traumas
- Nov 10, 2022Love Life Utopia
You’re using Twitter/ktt advice to discredit actual solid advice.
I would never advise someone to return to abuse, regardless of how many times it has happened. Yes, she may have the capability to change, but she should never have felt the right to put her hands on someone she loves. Only way she can learn that she was wrong is if OP removes himself from the situation entirely so she knows just how much pain she caused (man cried).
She physically assaulted homie during a non-physical confrontation and caused him to have emotional pain. He should steer clear until she seeks therapy for her past traumas
did she ever feel the right to put hands on OP?
seems like this was an instinctual response that she immediately deeply regretted...
Nov 10, 2022I had an ex that got physical with me
she's a recovering junkie now with 2 children with separate daddies that aint in the picture
@op just leave bro bro
Nov 10, 2022
figarobreak up with her lol
Yep