you not the only in here who felt the sting of a belt on ya ass bro relax

If you can’t figure out how to discipline a child without resorting to physical force you are straight up a bad parent.

AND B**** YOU IN TIMEOUT

My dad used to beat me; I still have bad memories about it. I love my dad but I shouldn’t have grown up being scared of him.

I don’t be doing the same to my kids.

And that is natural, but you hitting your kids is not going to build trust that allows you to properly intervene when things go bad.

You build trust so they divulge things to you that you can then handle alongside them, so they learn

“Matter of fact, I ain’t your daddy!”
Why did he sound hurt when he said that

It manifests in different ways. How you handle stress and anxiety. A large meta-analysis of studies on the effects of punishment found that the more physical punishment children receive, the more defiant they are toward parents and authorities, the poorer their relationships with parents, the more likely they are to report hitting a dating partner or spouse. They are also more likely to suffer mental health problems, such as anxiety, depression, and substance abuse problems, and less likely to empathize with others or internalize norms of moral behavior.

You defending it because YOU were fine means that there will eventually be someone who receives the same treatment and gets f***ed up for life. Better to just never bring violence around kids as a form of discipline

Exactly. This is my situation with my dad. I can’t talk to him about anything. I deal with it myself.

well it's either stockholm syndrome..or it's that your assumption about another person's relationship was wrong

and considering your knowledge of someone's relationship......with their mom.....is zilch.......outside of a single anecdote...which u have no reason to assume comprises the entirety of their relationship....bc u dont know this person at all

it's a lot more likely your assumption is just wrong

Anyone defending hitting children is a smooth brain

i can understand havin the opinion that you think hitting kids is unacceptable under any circumstances, but to take these unnecessary n provocative steps to say "you are in fact a victim of abuse" is just stupid man

It’s not abuse. 😐 until it is abuse. That’s the thing. There’s a line that can be crossed but I personally don’t think what I received as a child is abuse.

And I’ll even paint a small picture. I get in trouble. Parents angry. I cry. They go grab belt/spoon/switch. I lay on the bed. And got hit. It sounds bad on paper and ofc I didn’t like it but it didn’t change me psychologically and I like to think that I became a better person from it. I really don’t see the big deal. And I think people just never got disciplined and have this made up image of what it is and feels like in their head. You prob think it was this traumatic experience that I’m covering up lmao

Sure but that doesnt mean they can't get a whooping

Insane to see people advocating for beating kids in this thread

My assumption is perfectly in line with what they said. If they say they were abused by a parent and claim that the abusive behavior wasn’t abuse that is textbook Stockholm syndrome.

We’re out here with entire systems predicated on normalizing violence and repression and you people think that hitting kids when they’re in the stages of their lives when their brains are barely forming relations between things is going to improve the way things are

How many pig ass cops were beat as kids and now think what they’re doing is right ?

But again, after I say all that, there’s def kids out their that did get a way harsher punishment like my friend. But even then he turned out fine. I’m sure he won’t treat his kids with that degree of discipline

U act like I said u should beat ur kids all the time lol. Trust can still built with occasionally beating, because u will look back at the situation and see the faults in ur actions that led to u getting discipline

well fam they didnt say they were abused by a parent, you said that

so your assumption sucks stop trying

Why do they need one?

There are numerous ways of getting discipline without physical abuse what the f*** are y'all even talking about

Whole thread is “my parents bent me over and hit me with switches and look at me I’m fine!” - proud posting about it on a kanye west forum

Kids don’t see that. They can’t see that. They see violence in response to showing something to a parent. They don’t know what’s right and what’s wrong. I was barely remembering what I ate for lunch the week prior.