I literally have 6 real friends. Only of them is from high school that I have known since we were teens

I feel u OP since i left school (almost 10 yrs ago now) ive increasingly felt the same way tbh, im friendly and get on with people easily, but don’t really form any deep connections which has only got worse as ive become more introverted over the years.

The best inroad for you could be thru ur hobbies or interests ? If you could find clubs / teams / whatever it is, meeting people that way means at least you have common ground and a starting point for a connection.

Also would ask how much effort you make to build these relationships with others? It can be very hard if its not in your nature, but reaching out and being the one to set up things to do with colleagues or whoever may really help you

Yea man, I did very bad in high school so college became all about work so I stayed alone. I didn't start drinking or partying really until my 3rd year, which was short lived because life revolved around a gf and just getting money. But now, I'm debt free, make a good chunk. But idk, I just feel empty. I can't even really hold a conversation like that anymore because I'm used to not talking unless it's for work. Also I've never really set up stuff with friends except for brief periods of time so idek how. I agree with the hobbies thing, corona preventing that though in some cases. Has hobbies helped for you?

How u cats end up so depressed smh? In yours 20s no less. Y'all gotta be tryna outdo each other now cause this s*** ridiculous.

I'm constantly thinking of ways to make myself seem sadder than other ktt posters

I've had the same group of friends since around preschool-early elementary and I'm 25 now. Find it hard to connect with anyone else on the same level.

I think about this all the time

dunno why you thought posting this was a better idea than just scrolling past the thread without saying anything

Man, no bs. I didn’t even think depression was really real until this year. I was always on a man up tip, but nah, its real and it’s poop. Otherwise I’d be chilling, friends or no friends

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i hear that, i'm guessing you're possibly working at a place that isn't particularly social either if you're finding it hard to have non-work related convos?

Tbh these days i'm fairly content being relatively "alone" - i'm in a similar position to your college situation, living with a long term partner so maybe not the exact right word - have 3 or 4 close friends but rarely physically see any of them as only one lives anywhere near close, and that's still like an hour away on the train.

But when i was more active socially, yeah hobbies / interests were a great way in for social activities. Can be more difficult depending on the nature of yours but hopefully you have some that are conducive to that. If not maybe even taking some sort of evening classes could be a good idea if thats your kind of thing

I know the feeling that you can’t seem to handle a conversation, but it’ll come back really quickly. What kind of stuff are you into that could turn into hobbies (assuming you have free time)? Volunteering is a great way to meet cool people and feel like you’re doing something meaningful.

The only friends you are gonna need are your family, but obviously go out and do stuff and socialize whenever you can

i think true friendships is where true love exists, op u missing out, get some friends

I feel like its already too late to find real friends. All my true friends are from my childhood. I know deep down that i won't really do much with my college friends after i finish college.

Feel you OP. One day it also hit me like that.

I always had friendly acquaintances in school, uni, work. But they were all temporarily, once I left the place they slowly vanished. Looking back most of them were really superficial. I know I struggle with this human connection stuff but from their side there was also mostly no effort to maintain a friendship.

At the end of the day life is a solo adventure with many visitors, some stay longer but most of them dont.

What race are u, if you dont mine me asking? I have a response, but I don't know if it will be constructive depending on ur answer.

Black and Caribbean bro. We really don’t believe in depression tbh or don’t know how to handle it. Like I said, I used to straight up think it was made up