@op go
its all love
you have no enemies

op just tell them respectfully “I’ll pass”. You’re grateful for all they have done for you etc and keep it stepping.

I think you should do it bc you seem important to them so it would be a nice gesture and it feels good to be shown appreciation like that.

But at the same time don’t do it if the discomfort outweighs all that or if you don’t appreciate them at all (if you had bad previous interactions)

You do not need respect from them and honestly you’re kind’ve a sucker if you go imo. Leave the past in the past you don’t owe them s***, it’ll only bring up past feelings and potentially hurt you. You’re a good dude but you gotta stand your ground and think of what will benefit you, all this will do is reignite past trauma

its a savage world a brothers gotta eat

Can’t save these hoess, where did you see that type of shi happen all the time tho?

Im not gon lieeeeee the demon in me is saying be the one that got away, the nigga her parents always compare her future mans to

My ex's parents still love me and she can't stand it lol I wish them happy mother's day/father's day, and tell them happy birthday when their days come around. They were genuinely cool people towards me and they still ask her about me. Out of respect for my ex though I just keep the interactions with them minimal.

If you wanna keep a close relationship with them then give it a shot. Just cause you had a falling out with your ex doesn't necessarily mean you gotta cut her parents off. Especially if y'all were close like you say. And if they're only asking to take you to lunch before they move to another state it's likely because the feelings are mutual and they view you as a friend/family.

Honestly I'd say go to lunch. You'd probably feel bad for skipping if they invited you anyway since y'all were close.

Real

Real estate!? Man you better keep that relationship with him good at least. You never know, that kinda connection can open doors to some nice spots for you to live at in the future, literally and figuratively

Frrr

Nah real shi probably the only reason why I’d want to go to keep it in my pocket

Overall if you're a pretty decent human being people notice and feel like good s*** can run off by being involved with you. I've had exes parents say they miss me and dk why I'm not married to their daughter. I also have an ex that my parents tell every time they see her "ja'lah should've treated you right, he just always f***ing up".

Like it's most likely they see you're good and their daughter f***ed up but she just don't see it yet. Let her f*** up, it builds character

UPDATE (4/9/25)

I haven’t spoken to my ex since we last talked.

Today, they reached out to ask how I was doing. They mentioned that they’ll be in town in June for their brother’s birthday and want me to come see them then.

What we think chat?

what do you think bro??

mom nice ?

as long as there paying thats free meal

😂😂

both parents want to link up or just the mom?

pics of mom?

he's asking reasonable questions relax

Mostly mom, I’m sure—I was her favorite. But I think most of her family misses me too.

To answer your question directly, if I had to guess, it would probably just be me, her mom, and her stepdad trying to see me.

@fiveprestos Nice try, but she's cute and married

@viserion just mom She is usually the one reaching out

@Rampage_Adam yeah a sweet heart