Last week I lost my close cousin and I do not know how to sustain myself. I find myself being lazy and talking to myself about what if I did this or that.

You don't get over it, you learn to live with it

RIP and sorry for your loss OP

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We all deal with grief differently. Just know that things will get easier over time, and however you cope with it is completely ok. Much love

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It sucks and is the worst. When I went through grief I just felt dead myself

I wasn't even drinking or smoking through it, just melted to javelin by sufan for like 4 weeks

its better to let it was over you now so you learn to come to grips with it

suppressing it means you wont grow out of it

Yeah man I catch myself talking to myself.

Vey whenever you need to eventually you will heal in a few years

You do what works for you, it's different for everybody, only time makes things easier

You can try some things that you think might help you out, exercise, time with friends/family, whatever

Just let yourself grieve, surround yourself with people and get out of the house when you feel ready

On God

Take all the time you need @op

Sometimes you gon randomly break down but gotta keep pushin bro

Unfortunately it will happen to us all

Sending love OP that's tough

I think you gotta find a good place to be able to let the emotions out so u can start to process

Trying to "control" it might be the wrong way to deal with it

Don't know if anybody on the site is on some counselor s*** and has advice but I think making sure you focus on the good things about that person you love as well as being honest that it hurts they are gone.

Anyway <3 Wishing peace upon you

hey sorry for your loss @op my cousin overdosed last year, we werent super close but i partly know what youre going through.

my advice is just not judge yourself too harshly right now. It's completely normal you'd be a little depressed. What you should do is focus on your day to day tasks. Sometimes I make a check list: Wake Up, Work Out, Got to Work, Do My Dishes When I Get Home. Things like that. You just need something to focus on and those small tasks are great ways to distract yourself while you're going through it.

Sending love and healing to you man

This too, you're not really gonna be able to control it. There's just processing emotions in a healthy way or an unhealthy way.

A healthy way would be like crying in your room a couple of nights.

an unhealthy way would be like bottling it up and then blowing up at someone over one thing when its really about the other.

Either way they're gonna come out its just the healthy way is private and has positive consequences (you process your feelings and move on)

or they come out the unhealthy way (which I've done before) and get fired for punching a hole in a wall or doing something crazy

yes and it snek up on u randomly .

it’s not something you can control and you really shouldn’t try. cry when you need to, speak your feelings out loud when you’re alone, but don’t stuff them down. im sorry for your loss, losing someone is always hard.

it’s hard losing someone you thought was gonna meet your future kids, i catch myself zoning out about it every once in a while

real i have lost more than a few people i love and you just learn to appreciate what you had and be happy that you had it in the first place then learn to appreciate what you have today

Sorry for your loss fam I’d suggest to take the next three days or so to grieve exclusively.