For the past couple of weeks I've been droning in the lane of secure, but majority of the time, at least in my relationship, lean more towards anxious attachment. Found myself becoming clingy and seeking reassurance constantly from my girlfriend, to the point of annoying her lol. It's hard to handle, given my upbringing and not being accepted by most people in my life.

On the other hand I believe she's mainly secure, leaning more towards avoidant? As she's used to being alone for the past several years and can maintain her independence just fine. Also seem to close off and detach whenever she's super anxious or I cling hard into her.

I do not really know the difference but i can tell you I am extremely dependent on her. I just need her so badly. And I think codependency is not inherently bad, so what if my soul is wrapped up in hers? it be like that sometimes

Def avoidant, prob fumbled like 10 diff relationships in the past 2 years just cuz i take days to text back and never want ppl to know me that much

which makes me feel kinda dumb, alot of my life i would be so confused when women would move on with someone who looks like me or has the same interests, and i would be like why is he special and im not, turns out they just show up and i dont

Avoidant

Real nigga s***

who knows

Whats the diff

Avoidant for sure

At least you’re aware, fix your s*** rn so you can eat later on

disorganized

used to be anxious but i'm more avoidant now

I was fearful avoidant and that was what ruined my relationship of 4 years

Learned to fight it mostly

Definitely anxious lol

Avoidant

Cause I got

avoidnat

Anxious but have over to a more secure place over time

secure

im anxious overall since I’m desperate for female companionship, but in practice I’m avoidant until I feel like the relationship is under threat. I’m the type of person to leave a girl on delivered for 16 hours at first, in part because I assume they’ll lose interest the more we talk

I’m used to being ghosted, left on delivered and treated like I’m not a worth a damn for expressing myself and being sincere so I reject women preemptively in a sense. The messaging I get consistently is that my desire and very existence is something shameful and off putting

anxious

Avoidant sadly

Anxious unfortunately. Learning to hide it though

It’s secure until I meet that one girl that makes my brain go haywire. Then it’s anxious for sure

i avoid everything

Avoidant-dismissive never felt like the b**** sometimes for fun but never truly, don’t suck on the titties anymore either