It wasn’t a long relationship at all, but I fell in love with this girl entirely - every little bit of her, flaws and all. I’m usually a pretty detached person and it takes me forever to become emotionally vulnerable with someone. It happened in no time with her which is when I knew I found someone special. For a stretch of time, it felt like everything was perfect. That I had found my soulmate. I couldn’t imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone else and still can’t.

Out of the blue, she wanted to break things off and after digging a bit deeper, I found out that a major reason was because of finances. She has certain health conditions that could likely restrict her ability to work after marriage (I won’t explain further out of respect for her) so for the long term, she needed someone with a very secure job and good health insurance. I have a career in a volatile field (marketing) so it made her apprehensive in continuing the relationship, as I could lose my job at any given moment and we wouldn’t have a backup source of income until I found something else. With the job market being so s***ty, who knows how long that could take.

I completely respected her decision and we ended things on very good terms. I don’t have an ounce of resentment in my heart towards her because she was truly one of the best people I had the pleasure of crossing paths with. And that’s what hurts the most. I can’t be mad at her. I can’t be angry at anything. I just need to wallow in this sadness for God knows how long.

I wish she knew how far I was willing to go to make it work. I would have even taken up additional part time jobs if needed. I hate that money is such an obstacle to a happy relationship, but that’s life I suppose.

i am going to read all that

Edit: breaking it off for finances is kinda messed up
But since it's health related I can understand it a bit more

ima leave my take for this out, sorry that happened and life got between ya’ll. hopefully you can still be friends

I’m down to hear it even if it’s negative. I don’t believe in being friends with someone I once had romantic feelings for

you were never enough for her unfortunately, that doesn’t minimize the love and memories ya’ll had tho, but it’s definitely something you should think about as you process these emotions and move on to someone willing to give what you said in your last paragraph a chance despite how scary life and the unknown may be as it takes a lot out of a person to be willing to sacrifice like you were ready to

Better to just crash out and block eachother

Do you mind expanding on this? Are you saying that the finances thing was just a convenient excuse to get out of it?

no, because she had health reason attached

but to end a relationship that is going well on an unknown that hasn’t happened yet is a convenient excuse, yes

I am waiting for you in the Bender Thread op

In my experience, if they are that in love with you, career prospects (or lack of) and any other desirable or undesirable traits come with it and it won’t matter for them. She just wasn’t the one bro. I went through a mostly amicable breakup recently and although it sucked at the time, it doesn’t hurt anywhere near as much as one that comes out of the blue and feels like they have metaphorically ripped your guts out. They’ll be another better match out there OP.

it ending positively honestly hurts more because now you literally have no negatives to even remember them by to dampen the pain, just happy memories you can’t catch again

OP has a small chance to crash out the day she starts another relationship with a broke nigga

i do agree that if it was just money, yall could probably make it work. but that doesn't mean she didn't genuinely love you, or that it wasn't hard for her. i say this because I broke up with my ex in december, and while it wasn't really money, it was a contributing factor. and it was pretty hard, because things were great. but the reasons were mostly that i didn't see a future for a few reasons. but it's still hard. i still think about her every day, i still miss her a lot. both can be true, that yall just weren't right for each other long term, but in the short term everything felt amazing. that's how it was for me, and i'm still trying to figure it out. but i don't regret it. if she didn't feel like she was the one for you, trust her on that
edit i do think if she got health issues then it really could be mostly the money thing but rest of my point stands

start posting “he works 2 jobs just to take care of me 🥹”

boy they sick, but I don’t think that’s his ex lmaooo

op is worrying about something that he doesnt really know, only her knows lol

To your second point, she basically summed it up as a fear of her health impeding her ability to work/the fear of marrying someone who could also be in a precarious position with the industry they’re in along with the general economic state of the world rn. And growing older, if she doesn’t have her parents around to rely on, she needs to feel the safety of her husband being able to fully provide without any worries. All that’s to say that I think it’s a valid precautionary measure but I can’t ignore the people basically saying that if she was the one, she would have rode it out

damn

my villain origin story would start right there. I joked with her during our last convo that if she ends up with an unstable mf imma be so pissed

i dont like ppl trying to make people see things they way or throwing themselves at peoples feet // pls keep it moving g , you will find someone fye

all love, dont hold on to this tho

aint nun of ya business fr gotta unfollow that let that go

detach

and your last sentence is my main focus.

everything you said is true, but true love don’t see that s***, you know? That don’t mean she never loved you, it just wasn’t enough I’m sorry brother. this will pass

One great thing I have going for myself is that she isn’t on social media. There’s nothing really for me to check in on even if I wanted to

So she wanted a real man …
One that provides and protects
Shocker
“I don’t have an ounce of resentment” L mindset this s*** should have you heated
You not good enough for her how you just gon stand there and be indifferent?!
Sounds like you got some work to do once you break out of this phase and come to your senses lil bro

So sorry that happened to you. I can’t even imagine the pain you’re feeling in your heart. It really is worse when nobody’s really to blame for anything because then it feels like there’s no outlet for relief.